Step one is to understand what is causing your low self-esteem. Understanding where the self-esteem issues are coming from will give you the knowledge that is necessary to face it. Low self-esteem issues may steam from past life events that were traumatic such as being bullied or going through an abusive relationship. Other reasons may include losing a job, stress, divorce, or a mental illness.
Step two is to avoid talking negatively about yourself. Rather than focusing on the things about yourself that you do not like, focus on the ones that you do like. For instance, if you feel like you are overweight but you have lost weight recently, focus on the weight loss and how far you’ve come.
Step three is to surround yourself around people that love you and will help you uplift yourself. Sometimes it is difficult for us to think positively about ourselves, especially when we are living with low self-esteem. Use the strength of those that love you. Make sure that you are also surrounding yourself around those that treat you how you expect to be treated rather than those that make also bring your self-esteem down. For example, if you have a sister that you love dearly but she is may make negative remarks about you that can impact your self-esteem, you may want to steer clear of her until you are in a better place mentally. Make sure that you also are talking to your loved ones about the way you are feeling. Let them into your emotional rollercoaster so they are able to provide you strength and reinforce your personal worth. Don’t be afraid to ask your loved ones what they like about you and ask them for positive feedback to help you through your low moments.
Step four is to make sure you are being assertive. Don’t be afraid to tell people no and set boundaries as needed. If you are put in a situation where you are being asked to do something that you do not want to, take a breath and think about the best way to say no without causing more stress to yourself. Make sure that you set boundaries for yourself on how much you are willing to do for others. Putting too much on yourself for others can cause unnecessary stress which can cause your low self-esteem to spike. Make you are taking control of your own decisions and not allowing others to influence what decisions you are making. Making these changes can be a difficult life change so take small steps until you are able to make a difference in yourself.
Step five is to challenge yourself to do more things that you enjoy. Make sure the challenges are small enough where you are able to complete them to help boost your self-esteem.