As a young adult, we all have a tendency to compare ourselves to other. “She’s prettier than I am.” “He’s so much funnier than me.” “She’s so much smarter than I am.” This is totally normal and totally natural. But I’m here to tell you that this is kind of bullshit.
You can’t compare yourself to other people. Maybe you’re not as athletic as the guy on the swim team. But maybe you’re a kick ass drummer. He doesn’t know how to play drums. There is always something to be proud of. Find the thing that you are good at. Find the thing you love about yourself. Find your own thing. There is something about you that’s completely unique.
Growing up is all about finding out how you fit into the world. When you are a teenager, I think, you spend most of your time trying to fit in with other people, trying to find a group of people that will make you feel like you belong. In your 20s, however, you will start to figure out where you can stand apart, what makes you unique.
Once you figure out where you excel, it’s totally unfair to compare yourself to other people. Because they are all going for something different. Everyone is a different shape. You can’t expect yourself to fit into the same mold as someone else.
Now for some of you, this may mean that you will have to break away from your friends. That’s okay. As we grow, sometimes we outgrow other people. Sometimes people are only meant to help you along a small part of your journey. And that is completely okay.
Finding what makes you unique, finding where you stand, it’s a process. It doesn’t happen overnight. But the next time you look at someone else and think “well I am not as good at being ____ as that person” stop yourself, take a deep breath, and then tell yourself “yeah, but I am the best at being me”. And that’s all you can ever really hope for.